I met Eva Love about two years ago and knew in an instant that we would become lifelong friends. She has a heart of gold and huge insight. Enjoy her story. Please Leave her a warm welcome and comment ~
Relationships were hard for me.
I dated a fair amount in high school, but it always felt “off.” Before I married at 17, to escape from my abusive Dad, I knew it was a mistake…though I don’t regret it because I have two amazing daughters. Picking the Rotten Apple Though I liked men, I wondered why I always picked the bad ones. After my first marriage, I was engaged four times! After the fourth break-up, I realized that the one thing all of these guys had in common was ME! So I decided that until I fixed my “picker” I’d forget men and just focus on my children and work. I obsessed about what I did wrong for 11 years before I married my second husband. He fit all my criteria: religion, education, height, build, family, and his last name was Love! We should have been good together, but that relationship was a total disaster. I felt like a complete failure. Again! Here I was 35 years old and divorced twice! I had horrendous guilt for the damage my second marriage caused my girls. I was so devastated, and deeply depressed, I planned my death.
Eva … Stop the Car As I rounded the corner to drive off a 1000-foot cliff, I heard a voice from deep inside say, “Eva, you’re sick. It’s like you have the flu. You’ll get well. Stop the car.” I’m so grateful I did. To heal my deep emotional wounds, I spent thousands of dollars trying different types of therapists, healers, workshops, study groups, churches and spiritual paths. Nothing helped! Not only was I miserable, but I made everyone around me miserable. One night in desperation, not knowing what else to do or where to turn, I cried out, “God, help me.” A quiet peace came over me, the weight of my agony lifted, and I knew everything would be all right.
The next day the techniques that I later named The Love Miracle System came to me. After using this system for only three weeks my life changed radically. I was truly happy. I was healing my relationships. I was learning to love myself! I was becoming a new Eva! My friends wanted to know what I was doing. My roommate asked me to teach her and a few others my system. After that first class, things snowballed. I was so busy nights and weekends teaching workshops and working privately with clients that nine months later I quit my high-level executive position.
Goodbye to the Corporate World I was working for a billion dollar national auto-parts chain, had two departments reporting to me, with a $5.5M budget. I was the only woman on the executive team, had a big, beautiful, top-floor corner office, nice salary, and all the perks! People thought I was crazy for leaving. I never looked back. As exciting as achieving that level of corporate success had been, it was completely unsatisfying compared to helping people out of their misery to find genuine happiness and love like they never knew they could have it. I was having the time of my life teaching classes and mentoring private clients, all by referral. (I never marketed or advertised.)
The Most Important Thing was Missing
Four years later, it looked like I had it all: beautiful home, snazzy sports car, loads of wonderful friends, lots of dates with fun guys, great income, exciting world travel, and an effervescent joy that bubbled up from within me. What I didn’t have — had never had — was a passionate, deeply committed union with the Love of My Life. Mama was Right! Mama always said, “The greatest thing in the world is to love and be loved.” Although I had lots of dates, I was lonely for “The One.” I didn’t believe I would ever marry again, yet the longing for someone to share my life and my deepest feelings, fears, hopes and dreams with kept getting stronger. I didn’t want to grow old alone.
Where was MY Prince?
One night after teaching a class, I noticed a gal who was radiant. In just 3 weeks she had attracted a gem of a guy. Though early in the relationship, I saw a solidness about them that gave me confidence it would last. Never having had that confidence in my own relationships, I asked, “Why can’t you do that for yourself?” That night I began working through the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and resistance that were keeping me in superficial relationships with guys I’d never wanted to marry. Who was Keeping My Prince Away? I discovered I had never committed to myself. Rather, I’d always helped others make their lives better. By using my techniques, I became truly committed to myself. I committed to having the life I desired. A life with a partner I passionately loved, who passionately loved me, who wanted marriage – the Love of My Life! Instead of focusing on what I’d done wrong, I became a student of love, fabulous marriages, and healthy relationships.
My Prince Arrived
Shortly thereafter, I met my husband, Will. Seeing him across the room at a business conference, I was immediately attracted. That evening at dinner we sat only a table away from each other at the restaurant. Each time I looked over at him I caught him looking at me. After dinner he came by my table to introduce himself. He said, “There’s something about you that I find very interesting. I’d like to get to know you over the weekend if you’re open to that.” I was! And over the next two days in a crowd of 250 people, with no pre-planning, we continually found ourselves in the same places. I was smitten! So was he. We burned up the phone lines and made the airlines rich. (I lived in Scottsdale, AZ; he in San Diego, CA.)
Ready to Run!
About three months into it, I got scared. (This was an old pattern!) I called him and said, “I don’t want to see or hear from you again. Don’t ever call me.” He said, “No! What we have together is too good and we need to talk.” He sent me a plane ticket. The next day we sat face to face and talked for 11 straight hours. Will had also been studying relationships. He became my teacher. And I got it. Instead of running, I learned to stay, working though our disagreements, challenges and problems. We committed to keep our love for each other ‘front and center’ in our lives. And that is where it has stayed…it hasn’t always been easy, but it has always been worth it. My husband & I celebrating our 19th Wedding Anniversary.
More in Love than Ever!
We’ve been together for 21 (married 19) amazing and wonderful years. We’ve created a life together that is better than I ever thought possible. We learned a lot about each other and even more about ourselves. We gained enormous insight into how relationships really work (and don’t work!). As friends and family observed our relationship, they constantly asked us to share our secrets. They would say, “You give us hope.”
The Enemy of Love
It bothered us to see so much bad information in the media taking people down the road of disappointment and heartbreak. Men are taught how to seduce women but not create a real relationship in the process. Women were being taught to manipulate men. (In particular we think the book “The Rules” creates dysfunctional relationships that will end in divorce.) These and other popular ideas get traction in the media, but they are dead-end paths for those who longed for a loving, deeply committed relationship.
So Many Weddings and Baby Showers
Will, sharing my passion for helping build happy, loving, fulfilling relationships, wanted us to teach others how to create them. Our Magical Relationships Retreat, created in 2001, has helped hundreds of couples gain the tools and mind-set to create happy lasting relationships. Hundreds of singles have attracted the right mates for them, sealing the deal with marriage. We’re invited to so many weddings and baby showers we can’t attend them all.
Helping More Become Brides and Grooms
For the last 24 years the only way you could work with me to learn this system of creating a joyous, satisfying, loving relationship was to know one of my students. It was all by word of mouth – an exclusive club of sorts. Now, because I want to reach more people who want (but don’t have) their ‘Right One,’ I’m opening my work to the public. I’m not much on high tech. I like high touch. Recently I felt driven to use the Internet to take my work to the world, in spite of my resistance to all things technical. It’s extremely exciting to me to have the opportunity to get to know so many more people and to hear what’s in their hearts and on their minds. Every morning when I check my email I look forward to seeing who’s going to show up today, what I’m going to learn from them, and they from me.
Go to http://evalove.net/ to hear my Teleseminar “The 7 Heartbreaking Mistakes that Keep you Single!” May you be loved like never before, Eva
I’m so excited to share with you Dori Decarlo. Remember the radio show I was on? She is the Host!! You’ve got to read her exciting story…..
My story – how do I write my story…?
Well, I was born a mom, I truly was. Growing up all I ever wanted was to get married and have babies. I know it seems funny now, but it is true. My three children are the most precious miracles in my life and everything I am is wrapped up in them and, hopefully, they will soar higher than I have ever dreamed.
I did things the right way, I got married and started having a family, but my husband and I just didn’t bring out the best in each other, and divorced when our children were 6, 4 and 2! Having been a stay at home mom while I was married, I did everything I could to be home with them. I waited on tables, did home health care so I could bring my daughter to work with me, cleaned an office at 5am when the kids slept at their dads and more, all so I could be at home with the children I dreamed of having.
As they grew, I was waiting on tables down the street from our home and 5 weeks before my 35th birthday I had a nightmare about being an 80 year old waitress, with a bee-hive hairdo and corrective shoes asking, “Do you want coffee with your scone daaaaling?” That very morning I gave my 2-weeks notice and my boss asked what I was going to do and I said, “I’m going to start a marketing company” and my life as a Mompreneur began!
In the beginning I designed collateral materials and wrote copy for websites (when we were working on a dial-up) and helped companies redefine their business model and strategies. It was interesting and exciting and gave me a wealth of experience in helping others shape their business. Then Columbine happened, and my Pastor had a call to discipleship and asked, “If you had a calling to make a difference in the lives of people you would never even know, could you risk everything to do it?” Well, I went home and began designing a line of clear bags and backpacks to keep guns and drugs out of schools and took the down payment I had saved for a house to start my business. DON’T EVER DO THAT!!!!
Buy the house, because then you have collateral – my kids are priceless to me – but banks don’t find any value in them! LOL
Safety First Bags – S1 for short – began and was growing at an amazing rate as I raised my kids. We were out of debt and getting ready to hit the world-wide arena when our factory made a mistake on a custom order I did that had nothing to do with our company – and it cost us $131,000.00 to fix. Yes that number is correct and it left us with $2000.00 in the bank and an empty warehouse! So…I earned my Ph,D in business so to speak, and picked myself up and put the company on the back shelf so we could regroup.
As this was going on, I was very active on social media, especially Twitter and met Linda Alexander and Debbie Barth and we started broadcasting on BlogTalkRadio with a show called, “The Three Wise Girls” and my radio days began. We shared all kinds of people and topics and I decided to do a 2-part segment on Mompreneurs, featuring some of the women I met on Twitter and after the second part, Linda called me and said I had found a niche and should do a show for women – and that is how Word of Mom Radio began…and the rest…as they say…is history!
Word of Mom Radio has given me the opportunity to share amazing Mompreneurs and business women building their businesses as they raise their families and support and encourage them in everything they do. I know what it is to have your family say, “When are you going to get a real job” and all the other “comforting” things to dissuade you from building your business, and I wanted to create a place to give women a voice and empower them as they make their dreams into reality.
The PS to the story is that we are rebranding our company, my children are now 26, 24 and 21 – on their own and I have been on the road with my radio show. We have gone from my show, The Mompreneur Model to 6 other shows: Social Media Help Not Hype, Managing Mompreneur Mayhem, Productive Play, Branding Beyond Blogging, and our Advocacy Alley – and have just created The Word of Mom Network by partnering with Empowered Woman Magazine and Radio – which will also be broadcasting under the “Word of Mom Radio” umbrella…so the dream continues to unfold. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought this would happen…all I was trying to do was give women a voice and we have now become a chorus!
Never forget that wonderful can happen when you least expect it and that you create your dreams one moment at a time…so dream on, my friends.
You can connect with Dori at any of these sites:
What a beautiful woman and inspiration. Deanna Waters. Be sure to checkout her exercise videos on youtube.
“It’s so easy to define ourselves by our business involvements, but of course that isn’t the whole story. Let me just begin by saying that I have enjoyed an incredible career in the communications field, as editor of a business magazine, been a television producer/director of a children’s program, director of communications and marketing for our city’s economic development corporation and I taught evening classes in business communications at our local college.
Now, together with my husband David, we are one of the top earners in an international network marketing business and have traveled to various countries on speaking tours. It all seems like a miracle, when I think of my upbringing, constantly dealing with a brave mother who had mental health issues. This caused me to escape the home as much as possible for sports and music activities, looking for acceptance and love on stage or on the track.
On the upside, that meant I became an achiever and also very aware that people are often fighting challenges behind the scenes and they need our patience and encouragement. I finally found my inner strength when the musical director of a national television program asked me to write lyrics for his show, called Hymn Sing. He figured that since I was a writer and sang in a choir, that would be a natural gift. However, I actually had no faith of my own. What was said from the church pulpit meant nothing to me personally.
I had come to a point of deep discouragement with myself and really didn’t know how I could go on living without an intervention by God, who was really a stranger to me at that time. My pastor just told me to “try harder” and where do you go from there? I picked up a book I had gotten from the church library but hadn’t bothered to read. It opened at the exact place where it directed me how to ask God for forgiveness and to invite the Lord Jesus Christ to take over control and to be my Lord and Savior.
As I read that, I was hit with a feeling like a bolt of lightening, but filled with love, from the top of my head throughout my body. As I prayed that prayer, I knew I was forgiven and that the very power of Christ was now with me. Like a neon sign, a vision of the words, Matthew 27:26 appeared and a voice that said, “I died in your place.” (That’s where the notorious Barabbas was released and Jesus went to the cross instead.) I knew that I didn’t deserve forgiveness, but Christ died that I could have a new life with His resources to be a better person. I often felt inspired by the Holy Spirit in the writing of the lyrics and later in writing and directing a Christian children’s television program for seven years, called “Follow Me”.
I marvel at how Jesus works so individually in each one of us. Each one is precious to Him. Should we fail and fall away in some way, He is ready to pick us up, forgive and empower us to live a better life. I am humbled and so thankful for His amazing love. I went on to write 100 sets of lyrics, all published, recorded and performed on national television. This is the creativity of God. Through the experience of having to learn about God and Jesus Christ, and also having a personal challenge to face, I had a dramatic encounter with Jesus, and surrendered my life to Him. That was totally life-changing.
To this day, I still have high expectations for myself, but they no longer require others to affirm me, and I am much more dedicated to make a real difference in the lives of people God puts in my path, whether for just a short conversation, or for a longer relationship. It’s an exciting journey. I am committed to help people make healthier choices in their lives in their diets, supplements and exercise, and at the same time, for those who would like to develop another stream of income, I love to coach them to believe in themselves and to recognize the gifts they have been given, to help others and in the process build a strong source of residual income.
I invite you to visit my blog and my website, should you know anyone who is searching for what I offer. God bless you in all you are doing to bless others in this short journey on earth!www.deannawatersblog.com and www.thewatersedge.com
Deanna Waters – Be Empowered. Create the Life You Really Want….
I love meeting the most amazing and inspiring women. Today let me introduce you to Carol Streit…
Hi, I’m Carol Streit. Growing up in the Midwest, I lived near a rural town with a population of approximately 500 people. After high school I pursued a career in medicine, helped raise three sons, and spent 30+ years working in corporate America.
Life hasn’t always been easy. I endured my mom’s long battle with breast cancer that began when I was in grade school, and my dad’s illness with heart disease. I supported myself through divorce and single life. While in my 50s, I went back to college, and learned how to date again, something that I hadn’t done for approximately 40 years. My soul mate showed up when I least expected it. We were married two years later.
Life was ticking along rather uneventfully until August 16, 2008, our wedding day.
My mother, who had died in 1980, appeared at my wedding as a spirit, channeled through my sister-in-law, Karen. It’s sort of like having Theresa Caputo, the Long Island Medium, in the family because Karen is also a medium who communicates with spirits. Mom had come to let me know she’d been with me throughout my life, through the good and the bad. Karen shared information from my mother that no one else would have known.
That day changed my life. Karen’s connection with my mom taught me that there is a spiritual world out there that we can easily tap into if we are willing. I had always had a deep connection to God but this opened the door to a new consciousness.
These past years led me on a spiritual journey that has transformed my life from living an ego-centered life to living a soul-centered life, finding peace and love within myself.
I began reading every book I could find on the power of intention and connecting with angels. I learned that our thoughts and words are energy that form our lives. I learned to set intentions for the things I wanted in my life. Those things started to manifest, one after the other.
Then in April 2011 while I was away at a medical conference I woke up in the middle of the night with this burning desire to write. I had no clue what I was writing but knew that the process was Divinely inspired. My writing experience would continue most nights for a year.
Eventually the late night writing stopped and in its place came ideas for an entrepreneurial business. I would still wake up several times a night but I could tell that my focus was now on developing a business. (When I had set an intention to be an entrepreneur, little did I know that it would manifest before my eyes.)
My life became easier when I learned to surrender the outcome to the Universe. People came into my life at the most perfect time. The drama in my life subsided and in its place came peace and joy. Fear was replaced with courage. When I implemented all the principles I had learned my life became magical.
To this day it brings tears to my eyes to think of the journey I have been on. I was given this gift that I am to share with the world. My purpose is to share my knowledge and to help others see their true potential while spreading love and peace in the world.
Today I’m an intuitive life coach that empowers women to find their voice, bliss, and life purpose. I have developed 44 specific Intention Pages that I use as manifesting tools to help manifest your most perfect life. Intention Pages are magical.
I’m excited to share with you an in-depth transformational program that is starting soon. This three month coaching program has not been announced before today. This program will teach the principles that I learned when I transformed my life. Once we lay the foundation for your life we will then work on bringing more prosperity, peace, and love into your life.
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If you are ready to connect with your higher calling and determine what you are meant to be, whom you are meant to serve and what you are meant to create, contact me for details. This magical life is just waiting for you to unlock. All you need is a little help. I would love to start this adventure together.
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Today I am so excited to tell you about Samantha Fox. What an inspiration for how we can all take care of our bodies in a healthy and soulful way...
Samantha Fox Olson from @KauaiYogaAndFitnessWith Samantha Fox Olson encourages people of all shapes, sizes and ability into a greater potential within themselves, lifting up their spirits and their backsides, with the vehicles of yoga and fitness!
Her clientele ranges from elders with great limitations in their bodies to high profile celebrities known for their rocking’ bodies. She makes fitness infectious and in just one week her online clients receive mind-blowing results in their lives!
She recently offered a free 2 week online yoga and fitness challenge. Here are just a few of the countless testimonies that were shared:
Jocelyn, “As usual, just overjoyed when I am in practice with Samantha! Life just seems to meet me there each time, it’s unbelievable. I am a chronic myofascial pain sufferer. I have herniated disc’s in each region, cervical, thoracic and lumbar. This is what the Doctor ordered! I’ve suffered for years, I mean years. Samantha, you my new friend, are a God send, my angel. Today’s was magnificent. I was in a crisis last evening because of the weather changes here in the Carolinas. Everything about today’s practice was what I needed. I’ve learned how to stay bouyant allowing my body to somehow sync itself, it’s crazy! !! I know my body is thankful and is healing! I’m in this for the long haul. So excited to have an opportunity to go into my year, 2014 with Samantha Olson and other participants!”
Sigourney: “Thank you so much for this two weeks! I have woken up every morning excited to do my yoga and fitness with you! I have loved it and gained so much emotional spiritual and physical strength with you! I don’t want this to end!”
Melissa: “It’s amazing how great I feel after just a couple workouts.”
Lauren: “I love this challenge! Taking this challenge on has reinvigorated my whole life already!”
Samantha has just launched a brand new online yoga and fitness website where you can train with her from the comfort of your own home! Register for a free week trial today athttp://iloveyogaandfitness.com/
Inquire with Samantha about her VHB (very happy bodies) private support group too and catapult your body and life into joyful places in 2014!
Today’s story is from Caryn Chow.
Being a mom is the greatest blessing in the world, but as a young single mom at 21 I found myself putting my dreams on hold, often working two back-to-back jobs to make ends meet. It didn’t help that as a person living inside her head for decades I had to separate my own demons from the raising of my child. When you grow up within the confines of a dysfunctional family structure and at 21 hadn’t yet learned how to take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions, there is something that whispers to you that says, “whatever is going on inside, you have a responsibility for protecting your child.” There was no bargaining – I knew that I had to be the best mom I knew how to be. What I didn’t realize is that my son, and his mere existence, was really MY protector.
The internal struggles never stopped but I hid it well. I had alter egos cover for me. I learned to hide behind the façade of a happy person and how to act the part of any role I had to play. The only times I was truly happy was in the role of mom.
Years later, when my son entered junior high I began to dabble in theatre, something I’d begun as a young child until I followed my mother’s footsteps and married at 19. (That was an entirely different generation, where opportunities for women were scarce and culture played a part. Whereas the females were expected to marry young and become secretaries, the males were encouraged to continue on to college.) Getting out there, getting my feet wet, auditioning, doing readings, and taking acting/speech/voice lessons were a means of escaping the hell cell in which I still allowed myself to be imprisoned. After awhile, when I came to accept that jobs for Asian actors were few and far between, I opted to become an entrepreneur in my 30’s and float away from my love of acting. I began to view it as superficial, which in hindsight was just another excuse for not following through… and quitting on things before they had a chance to blossom.
While I was having fun finding myself, my son was growing up into an amazing young man. To say he was my pride and joy is an understatement. People were always coming up to me to congratulate me on having such an amazing, polite, thoughtful, respectful, charming, talented son. For once I had done something right. For once a dream of mine came true!
Aside from that, I lacked passion for all else.
I knew that I did not want to go back to corporate America full time because I had always resisted working for someone else. Something in the idea went against my psyche and messed with my free-spiritedness. In fact, I’m sure I seemed flighty to everyone who knew me, and knowing that did little to boost my esteem. If I felt judged I turned around and judged myself even more. Sure, there were glimpses of hope – even brilliance, for when I resolved to be great at something, or when I declared a job or a gig to be mine and claimed it with passion and zest. But those moments were short-lived until my insecurities kicked in again. I felt undeserving and afraid of everything – of being judged, of being the caged “me” I never had a chance to meet, of being alone with my thoughts, and fear love, happiness, success, and even fear itself. To walk into a room full of intelligent people was a fear worse than death.
As for that free-spiritedness? I recognize now the years of living within fostered a profound lust of freedom. It infiltrates even my personal life, which is why I love to fly planes. Flying planes, like entrepreneurship, is a metaphor for freedom and there is no feeling in the world quite like it. Still, it had it’s time and place….
After roller coaster years of teeter-tottering from opportunity to opportunity, returning always to self-sabotage, I finally realized that it wasn’t my outside life – or even my habits – that caused this turmoil. It wasn’t the work that needed me – it was me who needed the work. And I had gotten to the point of being tired of being a shell instead of just “being”. That’s when it happened…
Today I live an abundant and fulfilling life, with gratitude leading the way, peace grounding me, and the breath of life keeping me company throughout the day. I can’t be anything BUT happy, knowing that I am doing what I love, loving what I do, and making a difference. Like a wheel whose spokes have melted away leaving only the shiny metal gleaming, my life has come full circle, leaving only memories of good experiences. But here’s the best part. Just when you learn to leave your past behind, your present comes chasing you. Today I not only get to help celebrities, entrepreneurs and small business owners communicate, connect, and create a platform to position and leverage themselves to shine as leaders in their industry, I added a public speaking performance dynamics training borrowing from principles of acting. That’s full circle.
If you truly teach what you know, let me just say I know a LOT about communicating, connecting and creating. I just do it on the outside now.
And I thank God that my son has turned out to be the most level-headed, well-adjusted person I know. With a healthy self-esteem, he is super talented and damn smart. It’s an amazing feeling when you can say that your child is not only smarter than you, he is living life out loud and living his dream.
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